I have been becoming more and more frustrated with Laney’s sitter over the last few weeks. She is a really nice lady, kids love her, she takes good care of them, but she just doesn’t seem listen to me. I don’t think she blatantly ignores what I tell her, but I think she just doesn’t get it.
My biggest problem is with her feeding Laney. She has been watching Laney for 14 weeks now and I have had to tell her to only feed on demand 4 times already. Really I should have only had to tell her once. But no, I’m having to tell her like every 3 weeks.
Friday she infuriated me when I learned that she purposely fed Laney at a certain time “so she’d be ready for me”. Well really no, she wasn’t because she eats so much at your house that she doesn’t want to nurse for 4 hours or more after I pick her up!
After the first time she started constantly drinking 4 bottles at the sitter I looked at the book and realized most times she was finishing a bottle just before I got there at 4. So I asked for her not to feed her after 3 unless it had been over 2 hours since her last feeding (this was when she was still eating every 2 hours). The next day she woke Laney up from a nap just to make sure she had her 4th bottle before 4! Umm no, feeding on demand means you feed her when she’s hungry and my theory is to never wake a sleeping baby to eat unless they have a medical need for it. *And maybe a few other circumstances that may warrant it, but not just so she has the bottle*
After finding this out I told her, “just feed her on demand, when she’s hungry. If I am going to be here to get her in the next 20 minutes or so, try holding her off so I can feed her.” *which I have to drive some where to do because she doesn’t think her son would be comfortable with me nursing her there, insert exasperated sigh and huge eye roll*
Anyway, this was working for a while, until last week. Last Monday I told her that 1 of the 4 bottles I sent was 5oz instead of 4 because I just had some extra so not to worry if Laney didn’t finish it. I also told her that the whole week I was exclusively nursing she was eating maybe every 3 hours, sometimes 4. So the rest of the week when writing down what and when Laney ate, she wrote down 5oz for EVERY feeding! This isn’t a huge deal, but irritates me because it means she wasn’t even looking at the bottles. On Thursday she said “she really downed those bottles today.” So I told her “well maybe tomorrow I will send all 5oz bottles and maybe they will fill her up more.” She said to me “You mean they haven’t been? I thought you’ve been sending 5oz bottles.” HELLO??? LISTEN!
So Friday after all week she’d been having 4 bottles a day I said “I’m not sure what you are using for hunger cues, but I always wait until she starts to whine at least and shake her head because he thumb doesn’t give her milk.” Laney is a good self soother and sucks her thumb a lot, plus she’s teething so sucking and chewing are NOT signs of hunger. That day she also called me at noon saying something was off with Laney and could I come check on her during lunch. Of course I went and it was nothing more than her normal nightly discontent with whoever holds her sitting and what I think is a belly ache. I got her to sleep and also called the Dr and made an apt for her cough (whooping cough is going around and her cough hadn’t gotten better in a week) anyway, I told the sitter I’d be back at 3 to get her. She called me at 2 again and asked me if I wanted her to wake her up and feed her. Um NO, if she isn’t hungry don’t feed her! That day was the first day in a long time she slept over a half hour 45 minutes at the sitter. And guess what, she only ate 1.5 bottles!
And last but not least, yesterday when I picked Laney up, she asked if I sent 5 bottles. I said no why? She said “I know I fed her 3 times today, but there is still 2 bottles left in the fridge.” I knew then that she had only fed her twice because I knew that I had sent 4 bottles. One was left from the day before and the other 3 were what I had pumped the day before. I didn’t defrost milk and I never have more than needed any more. When I got home and looked in her book tough, she had written down that she fed her 3 times. This irritated the crap out of me. What is she doing, filling out the book before she even feeds her? Feeding her on a schedule which I specifically asked her not to do? This morning I said to her “Did you find any empty bottles last night, if not you must have only fed her twice.” She said “No, she must have slept through the 12:30 feeding.” I said that very possible. On Sunday she ate at 11 and then napped 1 to almost 4 and didn’t eat til after that. I’m fine if she only eats twice as long as she’s only eating when she’s hungry.”
Today I’m sending out for information from a daycare center…
I hope this made sense, I don't have time to proof read at the moment