They Got Me

A little background... Back in July my sister had planned a purse party.  The day of the party was beautiful, which meant that the only people that showed up to this party were me and my mother.  I felt horrible for my sister when she sent the guy and his purses home.  I was also totally bummed because I really wanted a new purse!  So when my sister informed about a month ago that she was having another purse party on January 15th I was so excited.  I've been using the purse she got me for Christmas in 2010 all year!  Anyone who knows me, knows that is a long time! 

So this weekend my best friend made the 2 hour trip to come hang out with me and go to the purse party.  We got there a little early and my MIL and another friend, A, were already there.  Now I found it a little strange that A was there because she doesn't carry a purse, I've never seen her with a purse and I highly doubt she owns one, but I attributed it to J, my best friend and friend of A's being there.  All of a sudden my sister comes down the hall and says "So I just got a message from the purse guy, he has the flu and isn't going to make it."  I was like "are you serious, how does this always happen to me???"  Then Lillian walks out wearing a ribbon that says "#1 Big Sister" on it.  It still doesn't really click until my sister says "So there was never really a purse party today, we are all here to have a shower for you."

Can you say total shock?!    I totally thought I was having a shower Feb 4th and had even gotten addresses for my MIL and finished up my registry.

It was a great surprise.  There was wonderful snacky foods and lots of fun.  I'll have another post with photos soon.  Right now this is the only one I have on the computer.

Lilli had a blast opening Baby Sister's stuff

Flaws

I have decided to give up on the party, there is just too much crap going on between the day we find out and the weekend we were going to have the party.  I'm very disappointed because this was going to be the only "celebration" for this baby.  It's just been too stressful trying to plan around this and that.  In reality it doesn't really matter to anyone else how they find out the gender of the baby.

There is also a flaw with my Poll, I still want to do the drawing for the hat, but if you want to be entered you also have to leave a comment with your guess because apparently I can't see who votes for what using that poll.  Sorry for that.

Then we have my own flaws, or possibly pregnancy flaws, but either way, I'm going nuts.  I'm already having anxiety attacks over leaving my babies when I have to return to work.  I still HATE leaving Lillian every morning and I know that when this baby gets here I'm going to feel even worse about leaving her because I will have even less one on one time with her.  Moving her to her big girl bed has really hit me hard.  I didn't realize how much the cuddle at night in my bed meant to me until it was gone.  I know that for her own good and mine I can't let her continue to be in the habit of going to bed with mommy, but I miss it.  It makes me cry.  I know it will get better, but these damn hormones make me feel like I'll always feel this way.  I've even wondered if I'm really cut out for this whole Mommy thing.  I mean I know I can raise my children up to be good, decently intelligent adults, but what I don't know is if I can handle the "firsts" and the letting go.  This Big Girl Bed has made me realize how many firsts I have coming, there are so many!!!  Her first day of school, her first time being left alone, her first shower without me in the room... That's just a few, but right now the thought of everyone of them makes me want to cry!

I'm sure it's just hormones, but I just feel like this feeling will never go away...

Party On!

Just a quick update for those that care...
I asked B what he thought of limiting the guest list to people that we see and/or talk to on a weekly or biweekly basis at least. He thought it was a good idea!

Let the party planning begin!

16 Weeks and More Unexpected Happenings

Thanks for the comments yesterday girls.  I don't think my family and friends would think ill of a gender reveal party and I suppose anyone that doesn't care to celebrate it with me, doesn't have to.

Now the next problem is the guest list.  Who I really want to invite is just our immediate family (the grandparents and my sister) and our closest friends.  This would be about 30 people total, if everyone showed up and I know that there are a few that couldn't.  Ideally I only want 25 people there anyway.  The problem, this means not inviting the 15 extended family members that expect to be invited to everything and won't understand why friends got invited before they did.  Don't get me wrong, some of them would completely understand (and of course they are the ones that if I could pick and choose would be invited).

Unexpected: B talked this through with me last night and since most of the extended family is on his side he says that either we just have a dinner party to celebrate or invite everyone.  What would you do?  Inviting everyone is almost 50 people!

Unexpected #2: My midwife had a student working for her yesterday.  This normally doesn't bother me for an exam or my general health, but when it comes to my unborn child it makes me a little nervous.  He was good though and admitted when he wasn't sure about something and needed to ask my MW which I was thankful for.  What I wasn't thankful for was him searching for a heartbeat for over 5 minutes before going to get my MW.  I knew right away he wasn't going to find it because even though I told him the baby was low he never put the doppler low enough and second he certainly wasn't pressing hard enough.  Thankfully he went and got my MW just before I was just going to ask for the dang doppler.  She came in and found the heartbeat right away!  Talk about relief. (oh it was 153 by the way, I'll do my weekly post tomorrow)

Unexpected #3:  Lastly was a very nice surprise.  I was telling B how I had been talking to Lilli about getting the big girl bed that's in her play room and giving her crib to the baby and she was so excited she wanted to get out of the bath right then and move it!  His response was, well then as soon as you are feeling better we'll get on it.  I said "you realize that means you have to start doing part of her bed time right.  Like putting her to bed, in her bed?"  He understood!  I think we may get going on this, this weekend!  I'm very excited.
Well, I'm sure there was more I wanted to say, but work interrupted me, grrr.

Please click on the link and vote for me.  I'm quickly falling out of the 200s!

Not What I Was Expecting...

Apparently a lot of things today are not going to be what I was expecting.  First I figured I'd wake up with an extremely sore throat as I'm getting my first cold of the fall season.  Instead I woke up with my throat feeling a little better, but a sinus headache that I just know is going to linger all day!

I have my 16 week OB appointment today and when I asked B if he was going to try and make it I was fully expecting an "of course".  I mean this is his baby too, right?  Well instead I got "Probably not, we're working in..."  I'm not even going to go into how I feel about this.

I figure I will probably be making my appointment for my 20 week anatomy scan today.  It got me thinking, that means there is only 4 weeks until we find out the gender of this little monkey!  Since before getting pregnant I've thrown around the idea of a Gender Reveal Party.  I don't want to have a baby shower as I already have most of what we need for this baby.  I got all the big things in gender neutral colors so I wouldn't have to worry about it.  So yeah, this means I have only 4 weeks to plan this party because we all know I can't keep a secret very long.  Anyway I started searching for ideas.

I was very disappointed when I started to read all the comments on articles and blogs about gender reveal parties.  90% of them are negative.  Saying things like "When I said greedy, I really meant more greedy in wanting attention than in wanting gifts", " agree that it's overkill. I have no problem with expectant parents being totally immersed in the pregnancy and sharing a lot. But to expect everyone to gather for everything about it... no." "No, no, no, no, no! This is really obnoxious. Even if you don't expect people to bring gifts to this gender-reveal party, you're still taking up people's time on another party that's just for you." "The byproduct of high unemployment." "I think most people probably have better things to do on a Saturday afternoon than find out if your cake has pink or blue frosting. Get over yourself."

And those are all after just 2 articles.  Does the general public really feel this way?  Are my friends and family just going to think I want attention?  I'm thinking maybe I should just forget it.

Did you have a Gender Reveal?  What were people's reactions?