tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2649712445480617501.post6262210025669451240..comments2023-04-28T08:05:59.496-04:00Comments on Dreaming of Baby: Insecure TearsBrandiHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14403978821361041781noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2649712445480617501.post-60219789106982520562008-10-28T21:35:00.000-04:002008-10-28T21:35:00.000-04:00Hormones or not, it is always upsetting when a spo...Hormones or not, it is always upsetting when a spouse is involved in other things. But I do have to say that hunting especially is hard to compete with. Maybe you could go with him when gun season opens and sit in the stand with him. That would show him you are trying. It is the last season he'll have to hunt without a child in the picture, so maybe you could let him hunt as much as possible b/c he'll likely not do it as much with a baby around. It's a hard sacrifice to make, I know, but if he sees you giving in a little, he might give a little too. Just a suggestion, and probably not what you wanted to hear right now. Also, I know that men don't bond with their unborn babies as easily as mothers do, but he'll come around eventually when he sees your belly moving. Hang in there.Fiddle1https://www.blogger.com/profile/09351570423027232218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2649712445480617501.post-60387491623888737892008-10-28T15:45:00.000-04:002008-10-28T15:45:00.000-04:00Aw, Brandi, Im sorry B is being so dense. It just...Aw, Brandi, Im sorry B is being so dense. It just sounds like he totally doesnt get it. Im sorry you are having such a tough time. ((hug))sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06047230476957940444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2649712445480617501.post-12583107889909990532008-10-28T14:56:00.000-04:002008-10-28T14:56:00.000-04:00Oh my...been a while since I've read blogs and sor...Oh my...been a while since I've read blogs and sorry that you've had ups and more downs. :(<BR/>It is hard and a big change being pregnant, but it is more of a change when baby arrives. You think you don't have time now...just wait, even taking a bathroom break will be hard to do. YOu need to let B know this now though...how you feel, what you feel, and anything on your mind. I can understand his wanting to go hunt...might now that he won't be able to once baby arrives, and let him. I'm not saying he should go everyday and ignore you, but tell him he can go but after baby arrives (and maybe even once you hit that last trimester), he is all yours and baby. Tell him that you'll need him a lot when baby comes. I don't know if you will be going back to work after, but I had to even quit my job and have been at home since then (almost 4 yrs) because it is consuming. My sis did go back to work after 1 month, but she had no choice (hubby in Iraq). Well, I hope you feel better...I was also alone when I was pg, but because hubby working away, and remember the crying at night for no reason. It gets better...and if he goes out, you should try to or have people over. I'm sure they will understand how you are feeling and bring potluck. Well, better get to lunch (running late today), but will check in later. If not, since I'll be going out of town for Halloween, have agreat one and have fun!! Remember that the baby feels what you feels and I jsut read that being depressed isn't good for both of you...so SMILE! Know it is hard, but you'll get through it. Take care. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2649712445480617501.post-55357036679610339412008-10-28T14:12:00.000-04:002008-10-28T14:12:00.000-04:00Aw, I'm sorry you are feeling sad and alone. It s...Aw, I'm sorry you are feeling sad and alone. It shouldn't matter if it's hormones or not, your hubby should realize that your life has changed with the pregnancy and he should be making some changes as well. It stinks tho because you can't force him to change. I do think however that you need to talk to him. He needs to know how you are feeling and why and that perhaps he needs to evaluate his priorities. We all need to blow off steam. It's ok that he likes to hunt but things change and he needs to be there for you and your growing family. Good luck sweetie. ! (hugs)Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11471972638661814517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2649712445480617501.post-13184750629399240912008-10-28T12:18:00.000-04:002008-10-28T12:18:00.000-04:00Aww sweetie! It does NOT matter if it's hormones o...Aww sweetie! It does NOT matter if it's hormones or not! You're upset and you should talk to him about it. I know it can be easier to just "give up" because fighting with your husband sucks, but like "pooh" said, it'll just hurt you more. Please talk to him, even if it'll make you feel like the bad guy at the time, in the end you will feel better. Hang in there hon!<BR/>Hugs,<BR/>-DBeautiful Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425541240465474148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2649712445480617501.post-1467820024899838062008-10-28T10:38:00.000-04:002008-10-28T10:38:00.000-04:00I understand how you feel been there before with m...I understand how you feel been there before with my exhubby when I was pg, well he ran off and joined the army while i was 5 months pg and used to tell me i was fat and gross.didn't come back till 7 weeks after I delived Arthur and didn't want to take care of him or work it was hell. You should spend the free time you have together now cause once that lil one comes, everything changes in a big way. I've read lots of your post and it seems he likes to go out alot, and when baby comes it shouldn't be all about you to care for him/her, and it sounds like it maybe will happen. You need to put your foot down and say hey this is how it needs to be, cause if not your just going to continue to be hurt and cry. I've learned from my past relationships to be a bitch, it's the only thing that seems to work, cause being nice doesn't, only hurts your feelings in the end. You seem to take very good care of him and everything he's put you through with jobs and such and he needs to grow up and man up he's going to be a daddy, not leave it all on your shoulders. I'm not trying to sound bitter just hate to see you upset and cry makes me cry reading your post, I've also delt with depression in my life and it doesn't help with the extra hormones raging. Sit down and lay out the rules and exactly how you both feel and make out a plan that fits you both not just him!!<BR/>Good Luck<BR/>BeckiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com